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COMPLAINTS
Also see: RIP-OFFS, SCAMS

If you want to complain:
____ Keep your cool
____ Take notes, e.g., who you talk to, when you talk to them, what they say
____ Do research
____ Write a detailed, calm letter to someone high up in the responsible company or organization

When someone says they can't help you:
____ Politely thank them for their help
____ Ask who above them (e.g., a manager) you can talk to try to solve the problem

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CONVERSATIONS
Also see: MEETING PEOPLE, PRESENTATIONS, TELEPHONES

Before beginning conversation:
____ Ensure you know name(s), backgrounds, interests of other person(s)
____ Ensure you know what other person(s) hope to gain from the conversation

Before talking:
____ Ensure you have the attention of the other person(s)
If necessary:
____ Reduce distractions, e.g., music

While talking:
____ Maintain eye contact with the other person(s)

While listening:
____ Maintain eye contact with the person talking
____ Take notes
____ Let the other person know if you:
          - Can't hear him/her
          - Can't understand him/her
If you aren't interested in what the person talking is saying:
____ Say that you need to go take care of something
____ Offer to call the other person(s) later

Regularly:
____ Look for indications that the other persons:
          - Can hear what you are saying
          - Understand what you are saying
          - Are interested in what you are saying
____ Give the other person(s) an opportunity to talk

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DIVORCE
Also see: MARRIAGE, RELATIONSHIPS

If you're divorced and have a child:
____ Avoid saying derogatory things about your ex-spouse in front of your child - it hurts the child to hear bad things about one of the two people he/she came from
____ Don't use your child as a weapon against your ex-spouse
____ Ensure you provide discipline (don't let up because of the divorce) - your child may need the security of discipline even more because of the insecurity of divorce
After your child returns from a visit with his/her other parent:
____ Avoid asking too many questions about the other parent
____ Try to spend some extra time with your child
When your ex-spouse has custody of your child:
____ Try hard to remember special occasions, e.g., birthdays, holidays, school plays

Regularly:
____ Reassure your child that he/she didn't cause the divorce
If other parent has left:
____ Reassure your child that you won't leave him/her, that just because the other parent left doesn't mean that you will leave
____ Try to provide your child with good role models to

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MARRIAGE
Also see: RELATIONSHIPS, WEDDINGS

WELL BEFORE GETTING MARRIED:
___ Be aware that approx. half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce
___ Be aware that approx. 1 million children in the U.S. are affected by divorce each year
___ Discuss the following about you and your prospective spouse:
          - Your goals and dreams
          - Where in the world, U.S., etc. you would like to live
          - Whether you would like to have children
          - How you would raise children, e.g., religion, discipline
___ Consider the financial implications of getting married, e.g., taxes, job benefits
If one of you has substantially more in assets than the other, and/or, if it is not the first marriage for either of you:
___ Consider a pre-nuptial agreement (be aware that suggesting a pre-nuptial agreement can create an atmosphere of mistrust, especially for a first marriage)
If you decide to have a pre-nuptial agreement:
___ Each of you should be represented by a separate attorney
___ Specify how assets will be handled in the event that one of you dies and the other gets remarried

AFTER GETTING MARRIED:
Regularly:
___ Ensure you make time to talk and listen to each other
___ Ensure you have some time alone

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RELATIONSHIPS

- A good relationship probably needs several positive experiences for every negative one

____ Learn to listen
____ Think "we," not "me"
____ Work as a team
____ Learn to negotiate
If your spouse/partner stays at home, e.g., to take care of kids:
____ Regularly express your appreciation for the job he/she does

Before getting into a romantic relationship:
____ Ensure you both share:
          - Similar basic values and beliefs, e.g., parenting, religious
          - Desire to have or not have children
____ Determine if you are genuinely fond of that person

If you're already in a romantic relationship:
____ Use a nickname for your partner
____ Avoid criticizing or blaming your partner
____ Divide household and parenting responsibilities as equally as feasible

Regularly:
____ Spend satisfying time together
____ Make a date at least once a week for just the two of you to do something fun
____ Physical interaction, e.g., hugs
____ Express interest in the things your partner is doing and is interested in
____ Praise things your partner does, especially things you would like for him/her to do regularly
____ Express your affection for your partner often, especially when he/she is behaving in a manner you find attractive

If conflicts arise:
____ Agree on a time to talk, then take turns talking
____ Stick to current issues, not the past
____ Control yourself, not your partner
____ If it gets too emotional and/or intense, separate and come together after you've both cooled down
____ Don't use shame or blame

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